You got it wrong. Let me demonstrate how these things work for the patron:
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John: Why is that guy staring at us?
Jane: Well, he seems a little .. weird
Clerk: Don't you know? Richard Carrier is the author of many books and numerous articles online and in print. His avid readers span the world from Hong Kong to Poland. With a Ph.D. in ancient history from Columbia University, he specializes in the modern philosophy of naturalism, humanism, and feminism, and the origins of Christianity and the intellectual history of Greece and Rome, with particular expertise in ancient philosophy, science and technology. He is also a noted defender of scientific and moral realism, Bayesian reasoning, and historical methods.
John: huh?
Clerk: He draws big crowds to places like this.
Jane: He does?
Clerk: yesterday we were empty. Tonight you are here. He will discuss anything. But beware, his rationality will often be the final word on any subject. It ends all rational discussion so to speak.
Richard Carrier [slowly looking up from his White Russian]: Polyamory solves more problems than it causes. And all the problems it causes aren’t really unique to poly.
John: Can we have the check, please?
Richard: All the reasons people might think monogamy is better (and not just for them, but for everyone), turn out not to be true, or lack evidence. And like Christian apologetics, monogamy apologetics will leave out data regarding the benefits of alternatives, in order to oversell the benefit of compliance with antiquated norms. Monogamy, after all, was invented for men to control women as property, and like a kluge, it has since been clunkily tinkered with to align more with our modern egalitarian values. But the two don’t really fit. You can’t value freedom, consent, diversity, equality, and autonomy, and insist monogamy remain the norm. Monogamy is an option. And for many, not the best.
John: Hey, the check, please. Please! [Waving 50 doallrs]
Clerk: be right with you....
Jane: John!! For the love of god! Just leave the 50, I want to leave....[couple rushes out]
Richard: Guess what? Research shows you are just as likely to catch an STI when “monogamous” than when ethically non-monogamous. In fact, if you are “monogamous,” you are actually substantially more likely to catch an STI if your partner is cheating. Because ethically non-monogamous people are extremely conscientious about safe sex practices, testing, and communication. Monogamous couples are not. In reality, if you are in a monogamous relationship, odds are good you are actually just “monogamous.” Because it’s all too common for one of you to in fact be unethically non-monogamous.
Clerk: Thanks, Richie - here's your split.