mikelf wrote:windy wrote:Outwest wrote:
There's the money quote for me:
By Sunday morning, several of us were actively propping up CFI staff morale.
The egotism in that statement alone. It's just too much to even laugh at right now. I would think that if the CFI staff were that upset, they would've have been complaining during the conference. As usual, she's making shit up again.
Unless "CFI staff" in that statement ≈ Melody Hensley
Exactamundo. This blatant attempt to appeal to "employee morale" just crystallizes in my mind exactly how inept Stephanie, et al are at playing the organizational game. It isn't a surprise to me since their ranks are filled with:
1. Academics who think success in a bureaucracy comes from putting more hissy in your fit (PZ, Lousy Canuck,Carrier)
2. Non-supervisory individual contributors who's career success comes from subject matter expertise (Stephanie)
3. Dilettantes trying to punch above their class (Melody, Rebecca)
At the executive level, you don't succeed in organizations (or, for that matter, courtrooms, since Lindsay was a litigator) by being the loudest or most earnest. You succeed by fully preparing the battlefield before you step onto it. You decide on your goals, determine different methods to achieve those goals, game out the various responses to what you might do, and prepare for each contingency. It is my opinion that the game was over long before Lindsay stood up to walk to the podium. I expect that he circulated his speech to the CFI board far in advance of the WIS conference and solicited their feedback and suggestions. And, dollars to donuts, he incorporated their feedback into the speech so they had some sense of ownership.
I was taking advantage of waking up wicked early to re-read some of the posts analyzing Stephanie Svan's decision to pour gasoline on herself and strike a match resulting in self-immolation and martyrdom.
Mikelf is exactly right here. They simply can't play the organizational game.
I mean, I have the organizational accumen of a tick, but I'm sort of aware of it.
I'm reminded of the time I worked for Head Start in Arizona. The office was a dozen women and one other guy besides me. What's important is not that there were a dozen women, or that it was a women-managed organization, it was a certain type of person who was attracted to one of the more frustrating corners of social work (perhaps an office full of male Head Start workers would act the same, good luck finding that). Basically these women were used to working with kids and parents in a sort of benign authoritarian maternal role which the often mistakenly used in their interpersonal actions. The time spent discussing conversations and conversations about conversations parsing conversations from half a year ago was awesome. So much so that sometimes I just had to hide.
What we have here is worse, it's not that everyone is vying to be the mom in the room, but that their only model is their own dysfunctional relationships. Quite frankly, they treat everyone as an ersatz friend or lover that can be guilted by half-truths and tossing a fit into doing whatever they want.
There's no argument there aside from "you made us feel bad". Ron Lindsay's real crime is not remembering their anniversary and not being convincing when he told them those jeans didn't make their ass look huge. Reframing Melody Hensley being upset for whatever reason including realizing she's been backing the wrong horse, caught out being a harassing little shit and the boss is not well-pleased as a general CFI staff issue is once again trying to use dysfunctional interpersonal models in an organizational manner and it's ludicrous.
What it comes down to is nothing more than a claim that someone's position upset them.
More to the point, as Mikelf notes, they have no clue that this dysfunctional guilt-tripping relationship model simply doesn't work in an organizations setting and either no insight into their limitation or are just stuck trying to hammer in nails with a screwdriver and crying about it.